THE 7 HABITS OF HIGHLY EFFECTIVE PEOPLE
HABIT 4: THINK WIN-WIN
Dr. Stephen R. Covey
Think Win-Win isn't about being nice, nor is it a quick-fix technique. It is a character-based code for human interaction and collaboration.
Most of us learn to base our self-worth on comparisons and competition. We think about succeeding in terms of someone else failing--that is, if I win, you lose; or if you win, I lose. Life becomes a zero-sum game. There is only so much pie to go around, and if you get a big piece, there is less for me; it's not fair, and I'm going to make sure you don't get anymore. We all play the game, but how much fun is it really?
Win-win sees life as a cooperative arena, not a competitive one. Win-win is a frame of mind and heart that constantly seeks mutual benefit in all human interactions. Win-win means agreements or solutions are mutually beneficial and satisfying. We both get to eat the pie, and it tastes pretty darn good!
A person or organization that approaches conflicts with a win-win attitude possesses three vital character traits:
Integrity: sticking with your true feelings, values, and commitments
Maturity: expressing your ideas and feelings with courage and consideration for the ideas and feelings of others
Abundance Mentality: believing there is plenty for everyone
Many people think in terms of either/or: either you're nice or you're tough. Win-win requires that you be both. It is a balancing act between courage and consideration. To go for win-win, you not only have to be empathetic, but you also have to be confident. You not only have to be considerate and sensitive, you also have to be brave. To do that--to achieve that balance between courage and consideration--is the essence of real maturity and is fundamental to win-win.
This is the first time I've been somewhat embarrassed to be a triathlete. I've always had a lot of pride for the nature of triathletes..... well in this case most of them. I suppose I have chosen to hang around those that are supportive and positive. I guess there are always going to be those few who have to knock someone down for their accomplishment rather than be happy that someone new has joined the multisport lifestyle.
Last weekend Brett Favre did a triathon. It was a super sprint in Gulf Shores, AL. I saw a thread posted by USA Triathlon on Facebook. The comments that ensued after it were mixed but I was horrified to see so many post really negative things about it. What gives people? Are you so insecure that you can't be happy for Brett instead of posting rude remarks.
I happen to know Brett and Deanna, they are friends of mine, and I know that he did this race with his daughter. He didn't train for it, he didn't "race" it, he wanted to be out there supporting Bre in her first triathlon. Deanna did the triathlon too, but told me she was so worried about both of them that she didn't "race" it. She still came in 3rd Overall! Deanna is a great triathlete and has been racing triathlons for years but chooses to fly under the radar. I'm not surprised after seeing some of the nasty comments about her husband.
I've never written a post like this before. I don't plan on ever writing one again. But I find it incredibly sad that people can be so mean spirited and hateful, and just needed to speak my peace. Lighten up people. There is room for all of us!
Thursday, September 11, 2014
Sunday, September 7, 2014
Wow, where to start? The anticipation of going to this race was crazy! So much planning, so much training, so much anxiety! Then it's come and gone in what feels like an instant.
Bill and I left for Canada and the ITU World Triathlon Grand Final in Edmonton on Thursday - my race wasn't until Monday. In retrospect it might have better to arrive a day or two later and then stay for a few days post race. That way we could have enjoyed Canada without all of my pre-race nervousness. I wasn't nervous about the race, like you are an Ironman where you are thinking did I do enough, am I ready?
I knew I was physically ready; I stayed disciplined and focused in my training and have seen the improvements this season in my bike and run in previous races. My anxiety stemmed from the logistics of this race! No cars allowed at or near the venue. You had to take a shuttle on the LTS (Light Transit System) over to the site. Figuring out when and where to catch the rail..... AND then where to catch the shuttle.... and what time do we need to get to the rail.... AND how much time do we need to allow ourselves to get over to the venue..... If you know me at all then you know that I wanted to "practice" on how to get there. We had to go over to the venue several times anyway for different things and so by race morning we were pros with the transit system.
Thursday afternoon we drove over to the mall in Edmonton, it's the largest mall in North America - being retailers of course we had to see it! Thursday afternoon at this place looked like a busy Saturday at the Galleria or North Park Mall in Dallas! It was crazy with people! We wandered around for a bit saw the indoor wave pool, the giant play area for kids, and the seal exhibit (poor seals living in a mall!).
I used Race Day Transport to get my bike to the race. But that meant driving it 3+ hours to Dallas to the participating bike shop. RDT did a great job with my bike and I would use them again in the future. I talked with one of the folks there yesterday about the drive and they told me that if we had 5+ bikes heading out of Shreveport for an event that we could arrange a pickup from a local bike shop!! The advantage was my bike was right next to transition and all I had to do was wheel it out. The only bad part was that once you checked it out of RDT it was yours. And I didn't want to schlep it back and forth on the buses and trains, so I left it with them for a few days. I was worried about it being out in the open but then noticed as we were leaving that they cover all the bikes with giant tarps at night.
We had to check our bikes in on Sunday and they give you a one hour window per age group for this. (found out later that it is really more of a suggestion). My time slot was from 10:00-11:00 on Sunday. Checked it out around 9:30, and got to ride it back and forth on about a quarter mile of blacktop in the park before I had to take it into transition. Rode for about 30 minutes - did some pick ups to get the legs moving. There was another race going on and so I couldn't take it out on the course. Actually a lot of the race course was closed to cars for most of the daytime hours due to races going on so I didn't get to drive the course and see what it had in store for me. Just looked at the map and talked to a Team Cambridge guy who had raced the sprint. He gave me some heads up on the hills. At the pre-race meeting we were told that if you were from Colorado they were hills, but if you were from Florida they were mountains. I would say for me - Mountains.
|Bill took this because I was next to the Japanese!|
|Walking the transition area with my new friend!|
While I was racking my bike I chatted with a couple of the women in my age group nearby and found one who wanted to walk the in's and out's of the transition area with me. Kathy was from Canada and lived about 20K from the race. How nice is that? We covered every in and out and I felt so much more at ease afterwards.
|Showing Kathy that the tents were across from our bikes.|
Okay, done with all that pre-race stuff so now I could relax and get mentally set for the race. Oh, we did go to the pre-race meeting. It was okay - some good information covered. They allowed questions at the end of the meeting and geez..... some people ask some really strange questions. Mostly on things that were already covered and they must have been snoozing during that part of the talk. Or saying things that weren't questions but more like complaints. Nothing that the Team Managers could do anything about- really strange things. "The ankle strap is too thick." o-k-a-y..... We were told that if you wanted to wear something over the uniform it either had to be the team jacket or a clear jacket and that you would have to wear it during the run too. One lady complained that the only jackets left for sale for the team at the host hotel were too big. I loved when she was told that it had been for sale for months on the website. She said it again, and was responded to with exactly the same comment. Haha - loved that part!
Okay.. so race morning!
Transition area open from 6:00-7:15am. My swim wave: 9:43am. Air temperature 41 degrees. Hanging around outside for almost 4 hours. Only brought one pair of running shoes, my racing flats. Mistake.... no shoes to run and warm up in- running in UGG boots.... not really practical. Found refuge in the Boathouse building! Warm. Thank goodness! But way too much chatter from all the other nervous triathletes. Have you ever noticed that when talking with other triathletes that most sentences start with " I "? A friend of mine and I were talking today and she had a great point... if you want to tell your triathlon stories over and over again.... WRITE A BLOG! Hahaha... love that!!! p.s. She writes a blog too.
We had to assemble 30 minutes before our wave went off and be "escorted" to the swim corral by a guy playing the bagpipes wearing a swim cap and goggles. Classy. We get over to the corral and I realize that I forgot to take my gel, but right before my wave goes off I see Bill on the other side of the fence about 7 feet away. Was able to ask him to get the gel out of my bag that he's carrying and he flings it to me, and I actually caught it!! People around him applauded!
We line up with one foot against the blue "blocks" and wait for the starter. During the pre-race swim a couple days before a girl and I practiced our starts, figuring out how many steps before we should dive into the water. I was also told that the time between when they said "take your mark" and the gun was really short, so I was ready. Bill caught this picture of my wave start!
|See the girl closest to the camera in the streamline? That would be me!|
|Me, freaking out!|
|2 loop course around this little island.|
e-Fuel for the bike bottle so I really didn't need the gel. I passed a lot of people, got passed by people, and came to realize that if you live in a country where you drive on the left hand side of the road you don't know where to ride if you are racing in a country where they drive on the right hand side of the road. Where we live we call it "blocking". I can't tell you how many people from Great Britain and Australia that I had to pass on the right. Either that or it is the triathlete entitlement attitude where it is Worlds and I can ride wherever I darned well please. At any rate, I let that go and had a great ride! It was tough - there was a hill just out of transition and on the second loop I looked down and was going 7 mile per hour. Other hills I ran out of gears on the decent, but managed to average 21.1 mph!
Back in to the long transition and out onto the run. It was a two loop run with almost 2 miles of each loop on trail. Hard pack dirt trail through some really nice woods. I took my e-Gel right away since I hadn't been able to take one on the bike, initially was planning on taking it halfway through the run. On the plane ride to Canada I finished reading "Born To Run", and while I don't advocate the whole barefoot running thing I did take away 4 little words that helped me on the trail. "Light, Easy, Smooth, Fast". And it worked. I had the best 10K run that I've ever had in an Olympic distance triathlon. I passed so many girls and just felt awesome. On the last loop in the last 1/2 mile or so of the run I went by some spectators and one of them shouted out "NICE RUNNING, SPANSEL!!!" Finished with a 7:48 average!! (prior best? 8:00 per mile).
|This is what hurt looks like.|
I'm a firm believer in looking to what was good and what went right in your races as opposed to what was bad and what went wrong. I know that I went into this race more prepared than I have ever been for a short course race. I'm so very pleased with my race and have zero complaints! Here is what I looked like coming across the finish line. Do you think I was happy?
I found Bill and we went to the Beer Garden! Someone told me we could see results online and I pulled up this! I don't know if you can see it, but it said I was 5th in my age group! I have to admit I got teary eyed when I saw it. You see with our wave going off last in the swim, I was honestly worried about finishing last in the entire race. Was hoping to finish somewhere around mid pack with my age group. Secretly wished for a top 10 finish but really didn't think it was possible. I got to enjoy what seemed to be a 5th place for a day, and then online results showed that I was 8th in my age group. A little let down after the exhilaration of thinking I was 5th but still a top 10 finish and 5th American!!
What a fantastic experience! Loved it, even with all the drama of my nervousness. Here are some photos that we took during our stay in Edmonton!
|My handsome husband!|
|In the winter this lake is an ice skating rink!|
|Awesome little English Pub where we ate more than one meal!|
|Really pretty trees in Canada!|
A big thank you to my sponsors! Team Cambridge and my friend and Team Manager, Scott Eder.
Scott Eder Sports. Sportspectrum and Matt Brown! Cobb Cycling, John Cobb, and the Cobb Mobb! Eternal Water, and ICEdot! You guys, rock!!
Saturday, August 23, 2014
My "A" race of the season is almost here! Bill and I will be heading to Edmonton, Alberta, Canada this coming Thursday!! I am competing in the World Short Course Triathlon Championships. And I am nervous!
At this point my nerves stem primarily about the logistics of the race AND the fact that my swim wave of Female 50-54 goes off last. I hope I'm not the last person to cross the finish line.
My sister Connie, flies in on Monday. She is going to puppy sit for Phoenix and Bogey! I can't wait to see her! We don't leave until Thursday so we will get to spend a few days together!
There is a page on Facebook about the race and they've started posting water temperatures. I had no idea that ITU (International Triathlon Union) has a different set of wetsuit guidelines than USAT (USA Triathlon). Here in the states the cut off temperature for wetsuits is 78 degrees. I've always thought this was too high. You really don't need a wetsuit in that temperature water and it always amuses me when you hear the chatter on race morning when the water is close to the cut off. At River Cities this year, which is typically a really, really hot race there were rumors going through the crowd that it was wetsuit legal and how people had wished that they had brought their suits.
|Here is the chart for ITU racing. [°F] = [°C] × 9/5 + 32|
Things to remember to bring:
Toe Covers for my cycling shoes
Throw away gloves for the bike! Tri Tyler Race Report
Mylar blanket for prerace wait.
It's time to start packing!!
Friday, August 8, 2014
|COSST Swimmers!! Cheering at the race!!|
2014 makes #19 for me at RCT! I love this race! Who wouldn't? Great course, great swag (understatement here), and great post race party! What's not to love? Here are a pictures of what was in our race packets this year!!!
|Backpack, Hat, 1/4 Zip LS Tech, S/S Tech, Socks, Swim Bag!|
|COSST Swim Coaches!! Hallie and Linda!|
I lined up for the swim back from where I would typically start - I was worried about getting beat up in the swim. The last time I raced an Elite wave I had a bad experience in the water, so I thought I'd be a little cautious with these youngsters. I swam hard and never had any issues, I kept thinking that I didn't want to look like a slouch coming in dead last in the wave. I guess I held my own pretty well because I heard Coach Kyle yell that I was 3rd female out!
I was riding strong and passed one of the women who was out of the water before me. Just after that a pack of what looked like mostly collegiate athletes came by me! In it were a couple women - it was so irritating! I actually coasted to let them go by, came up off the aerobars, and addressed the bike marshal on a motorcycle who had come up on the pack. "Do they not know????" I looked at the little note pad that the person on the back of the moto had and he hadn't written down any numbers yet, he gave them a chance to fix it. There was one guy in the pack that turned to me and said, "I hope we don't all get dinged for drafting." REALLY??? And then they rode away - I watched the motorcycle pace with them, and they looked like they kind of dispersed a little. A little bit further down the road I could still see the group of them way up ahead, and I saw the same motorcycle pull back onto the road and go after them again. He had pulled off in a driveway to wait for them to pass by. Then the Head Referee (black and white shirt) came flying by on the back of another motorcycle - I guessed that he had been radioed. Shreveport Times Article.
Cool weather = fast running!! The air temperature was down, usually it's in the 90's by the time this race is underway, this day we had 70's! But there was still the typical Southern humidity. I looked at my watch once or twice during the run but it was never on the correct scrolling screen, so I gave that up and just ran hard. I even split mile 1 and 2, and mile 3 was only 4 seconds slower. Knowing this run course helps so much - one of the benefits of having raced here so many times. I ended up finishing 5th among the Elite wave women and 11th Overall by the time the rest of the women had finished. My best finish here in many, many years. I hope that I can bring some of this speed with me to Worlds in Canada!!
I was going to race next at the Lake DeGray Sprint on the 16th but I've rethought my plan and feel it would be better to stay home and have a quality weekend of training since my big race is just around the corner.
One other note! If you have read any of my previous blog posts you'll see that I trained and raced with a girl named Denise Joplin. Well a couple months ago her husband Kyle accepted a position at Centenary College here in Shreveport as the Assistant Swim Coach and Head Cross County Coach! You know what that means? Insert gigantic smiley face here!
|Volunteering at IronFish!|
We wasted no time getting back into the training together - they landed here on Thursday the 31st and since then we have had 4 Masters Swim workouts with Coach Kyle on deck (so great to have him coaching me again in the pool), and we've ridden twice. Denise also volunteered at the River Cities Triathlon and the IronFish Kid's Triathlon - she helped with the timing. Cajun Timing handled both races and it is the same company that is doing the timing for the HubCity Hustle Triathlon in Hattiesburg - Denise is the race director. If you're looking for a great race to do in the South you should consider registering for this one!
Next stop Canada!! World Short Course Championships in Edmonton!!
Saturday, July 26, 2014
A few weeks ago I wrote about the Kids Splash & Dash that I put on in Shreveport at the Southside Pool and after watching the kids go from swim to run I could tell that I wanted to help with their transitions. So I started planning a Kids Triathlon Transition Clinic! I recruited Coach Hallie and Coach Rachel to help me. They are both triathletes and coaches with COSST (City of Shreveport Swim Team)!
Every year the day before the big River Cities Triathlon, Sportspectrum puts on the IRONFISH Kid's Triathlon. I've never been out to watch it, always too consumed in my own self and resting before River Cities. But after coaching for the past year here in Shreveport I want to give back to this race, so not only will I be volunteering this year at the kid's race but I wanted to help them with one of my favorite parts of triathlon - THE TRANSITION!
This morning about 20 kids and their parents arrived at the Southside Pool with their bikes and all of their swim, bike, and run gear for our first Transition Clinic! The Sunrise Tri Club generously offered to provide refreshments and Matt Brown and Sportspectrum gave us some awesome door prizes to give away! I had some Aquaphor samples left from last year so I handed those out to everyone too!
We started with a talk about the race itself -went through what they would be getting in their packets. Talked about the race tattoos that they will have this year. Then went over a transition map and a poster I made showing how to set up their transition area. It's always good to have an idea ahead of time of where the swim, bike, and run enter and exit the transition area.
Then Rachel, Hallie, and I did a run though so they could see how we handled our transitions! That was fun!
After that we got all of the kids to set up their transition areas and we did a walk through - walking. They did really well so we regrouped, reset the transition area but this time they swam 25 meters and did the transitions at full speed! These kids ROCKED IT!! I was so proud of them!
We gathered back under the patio area and talked a little more about what to eat then night before and morning of the race, and a few other things like SMILING FOR THE CAMERA AT THE FINISH LINE!
Had some ice cold chocolate milk and water and then did the drawings for the door prizes! We had enough prizes that everyone went away with something fun! There were tshirts, hats, a backpack, a blanket, a water bottle, and socks! I think they had a good time. Coach Butch said the parents were very happy and excited about the clinic. Harrisen and Evangeline's mom said something that made me feel great, she thanked me and told me that they would have had no idea on what to do had we not put on the event! I call that an absolute success!
I can't wait to see these kids at IRONFISH on Saturday!!!
We just may be seeing the next generation of elite triathletes!
It's time to give back to the sport I love so much! Wish you could have joined us!
Thank you Hallie and Rachel!